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Signs of an Abusive Personality

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Signs of an Abusive Personality

Dating should be a fun experience. To make sure you're enjoying yourself, while staying safe, be aware of common signs in people with abusive personalities. If you're using an online dating service, look for these types of traits in possible matches:

  • Extreme jealousy or possessiveness
  • Pushes for quick and intense involvement
  • Seems too good to be true
  • Needs to be in control
  • Unrealistic expectations of the relationship
  • Easily upset or angered



12/16/2008 9:13:52 AM
chris said:

Seems too good to be true to others, not me. Very easily annoyed and angered by me. Reminds me of anything nice he's done for me. Blames me for anything that goes wrong for him.

6/20/2010 3:36:37 PM
April said:

I wish I had found this before I got married. Describes my soon to be ex-husband to a T

8/15/2010 2:43:00 PM
Ralph said:

In my relationship, I did experience pushiness for wanting to hear "I love you," extreme jealousy (But it was ok for her to leave me sitting in a bar by myself for 10 minutes while she was on a smoke break outside talking to some other guy and it was ok for her to tell this guy she knew for years that he was hot in front of my face with her wanting me not to have any ill feelings about it, unrealistic expectations (After getting upset at me on our last fight, she wanted me to make her feel the love she felt for me when we first began dating), need to be in control (I wasn't allowed to feel needy when I missed her), Easily upset (When I questioned her about some very expensive gifts she had received from her male boss, she exploded, yelling "I go out with a lot of guys as friends and if your gonna be jealous of that, we can end it right now), and too good to be true (She kept telling me how God brought me to her and we were going to grow old together and how she was going to buy a house for us, since she was the one that was financially secure). You can say I experienced all this. What I know now that I've been apart from her for one month after dating for 3 months is that she had a mental disorder. She feels like all the men in her life had let her down. The truth is that she has let a few down too. If I had known she was like this, I would've never dated her or gone beyond a 3rd or 4th date. But she was very fake in the beginning and suckered me in very skillfully. I made the mistake of moving at her fast pace, falling in love with her in less than a week and trusting her with my heart. I am happy to say that I met a fine woman I've been seeing for 3 weeks now that is the total opposite of my ex. We're taking it slowly and she's herself, which I love about her. She doesn't pretend to be something she's not and she's very fair in her assesment of things, unlike my ex. My advice for guys or ladies looking for Ms. Right is to not rush anything; take your time when you first start dating someone. If they want or try to rush, RED FLAGS SHOULD GO OFF AND YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT THIS PERSON IS EITHER LOOKING FOR SEX, SOMETHING VERY SHORT TERM, OR IS CRAZY. In my case, I learned that it was all three of these. Don't put up with any crap from these losers, reject them the minute they do or say something thats disrespectful and/or wrong. Remember, if you meet a nice person, you'll get nice results. If you meet a bad or crazy person, you'll get bad or crazy results. Chris and April, your not alone. We are victims of Ugly People disguised as Good People. Everyone else, please take one step at a time. A little goes a long way. Theres no need to rush. We have all the time in the world. And remember, the best things come to those who wait.

8/25/2010 11:14:36 PM
Chasity said:

This information is true . I'm trying to leave my boyfriend now. He is psychotic and duranged. i honestly believe if I try to leave him he will kill me


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