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Should we live together?

Moving In Together

Many couples skip this step and go directly from a steady relationship into marriage. I feel it is important to live with someone first, to get to know what they are like day-in and day-out, and to see if this is something you are willing to deal with.

There are some who say it is better not to know, and to learn after you're married, but this is not a car that you will retire after a decade. This is a permanent joining of two people. Both people *should* know everything there is to know before dedicating their entire lifetime to this person.

Many traditions about marriage were made when married life involved only 20 years or so of time, and when often the entire time was spent apart from each other in "jobs" (work or home) that took up the entire day and night. With life spans being much longer, and free time and "enjoying each other" being so much more important, it's key to be sure your partner is one you can truly enjoy for the remaining years of your life.

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So basically you are telling me it`s ok that I sleep with my child`s father regardless if we are together or not right?
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when you can`t help but think about your ex, is that mean that he is thinking about you too?
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Ok so because he doesn`t do all those things I should make an exception. What a bunch of shit!!!!
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Q. if your girlfriend doesnt want you 2 wear something because it reminds them of a ex-lover, does this mean that they still have feelings?and their relationship now, as good friends suggests it isnt a bad reminder?
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Q. My new boyfriend and I have been dating for a couple of months now. I thought everything was going good. He just got divorced about 7 months ago to the only girl he`s been with since high school. He is 23 now. They were married for only 1 year and she told him she had cheated on him with 10 people after they got married. So he divorced her. She moved away with one of the guys and now she is calling my boyfriend everyday tring to get back with him. He still loves her I know that, but with the holidays coming she will be coming home to spend with her family. My boyfriend told me he is really confused and has a lot of things to figure out in the next week or 2 and told me to hang in their because he cares about me to. He just can`t get over her. Which i can deal with that I`ve been through an experience of my own all most like his. He knows I will be there for him and would do anything for him. I told him that she doesn`t deserve him and he thinks in his head that he doesn`t deserve her. I have no one else to talk to about this because I don`t want my family and friends to know, because i know what they would tell me, but I really don`t want to loose my boyfriend, but i don`t know if i`, strong enough to go through this. I guess that my question is how can i help him start to slowly move on and get over his ex. sorry this is so long, but i am confused on the hole deal.
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Q. Im so Happy I found this site! I have been searching everywear for answers! Ive been in this relationship for 2 years. The first 11 months were wonderful! Romance, Pastion, effection, eye connection, gifts, and love was everywear. He even gave me a promise ring! Now he doesnt show me he loves me except by doing things for me, (he`d do for anyone) Hugs and kisses me, and says I love you like a habbit. He`s never seriouse with anything we talk about, even if im upset! I`m afrade he has lost the heart filling butterfly feeling. I go home evernight and cry because I know He is not in love with me as much as I am with him. Everytime I talk about us getting married in a few years, he changes the subject. He Can never look me straight in the eyes. & all he ever talks to me about is work and college. I have thought there was another girl, but I realized there is not. If you could give me some kind of response, it would be great! PLEASE HELP ME! What is going on with my boyfriend?
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Q. i break up with my boyfriend, because he cheated on me how do i know if he still loves me, because i still love him, and how should i amke him jealous
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thanks for listening i hope you can help me i don`t want to get burned again
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Q. I`ve dated this woman for 5 months... She`s was dating me and one other guy... Recently, she told me she wanted to go steady with me, and then, a week later, she told me that she changed her mind because she could`nt break it off with the other guy... I recently broke off all contact with her, gently... For now... To give her time to find out about this other guy... I felt like I was competing with this other guy... I didn`t mind giving her time or courting her but it was too hard to keep seeing her... My serious feelings happened all at once... I told her that we could have a status update on our future in about a month... I still feel strongly for her and I know she cares for me... What should I do?
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Q. Hi. I recently moved in with my boyfriend, and he has made a change for the worse. He depends on me to do his laundry, cook his meals, clean up after him, and to help him with his bills. At first I helped him out since he and his mom both lost their jobs, but now I feel more and more like he doesn`t love me, instead he just needs me to take care of him. We`ve been together for two years, and everything that used to be good about our relationship has vanished. I`m miserable about our relationship, but don`t know how to fix it. I`ve tried talking to him about this, and he has said that he would change, but it`s been 2 weeks, and nothing has happened. I want things to go back to the way they were before we moved in together. What am I doing wrong?
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Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for a little over a year now, but recently (last 2-3 weeks) things have been really rough. i`ve done things unintentionally that hurt him over the year and he`s sick of it and we`re taking, well i guess, a break. he needs time to get his head straight and i`m supposed to think of ways where i will change, and not hurt him anymore. i need to know how to have and maintain a successful relationship, i need to know what to do and what not to do, i need to know how i can mend the scars i`ve put upon our relationship, i need to show him i care and love him (not just through words).... i am totally in love with this guy and he`s so angry with me. i just don`t know what to do except wait. i know i`m being kind of unspecific but i just need help. my mind is boggled and i just don`t think i have the right thoughts in my mind to mend our relationship. please help!
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Q. i recently got drunk and cheated on my boyfriend at a party. hes incredibly pissed, and understanably so. i really do care about him, but i think we were at that insecure point in our relationship, and i think i totally screwed things up. how do i regain his trust?
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Q. My exboyfriend and i were together for 10 months. He broke up with me because i argue to much for no reason with him and becuase i threw big jealous tantrums. He`s given me plenty of chances but i always mess it up. Now that i have had time to evaluate myself i realize that i hurt him. NOw i want to get back with him but he says he`s is scared. He told me to move on, and that the reason he wont take me back is becuase of the doubt he has of everything going bad again. What does he mean he`s scared? What or how do prove to him that im changed and i really want to make it work? WIll he forgive me and give me one last chance? DESPERATE FOR ADVICE
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Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 7 years. We finally graduated college and moved in together. But now since we have been living together, he does not want to be intimate with me. We have been living together for 1 month, and he is totally different to me sexually. This is unlike him, i know he is not cheating, so why the sudden change of heart?
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Q. My boyfriend has told me that he feels controlled by me and i have told him i will change to save our relationship but i need advice on how to go about it. The problem is i am insecure and find it hard to trust that he loves me and wants to spend time with me even though the evidence is there for me to see. Because of this, when he does take space or is distant or doesent want to do something i want to do with him, I feel it as a rejection, not logically but emotionally and i get angry or upset. The problem is that part of me knows that i shoudent be so silly but my emotions take over and i start being critical and emotional. i dont want to be like this. What methods are there to deal with the problem.
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Q. I met my boyfriend online several years ago. In March of 2003 he finally flew out to see me (Im from California, he`s from Alabama), and we got pretty serious after that. I moved to Alabama this July and started at the University of Alabama in August. I live in my boyfriend`s hometown, but he lives 4 hours south of me. The problem is, he won`t move back home. Before I moved to Alabama he said he would move back to his hometown in August so we could be together. He was recently kicked out of radiology school and was not enjoying his current job. When August rolled around he said that he was helping with a new program at work and felt obligated to stay until the first of the year. Now that the first of the year is 2 weeks away, he`s saying that he really enjoys his job and he`ll be back "sometime in the spring". Everytime I try to talk to him about it he gets really defensive and we don`t get anywhere. I am tired of having a long distance relationship; it`s been 3 years already. I feel hurt and let down. What do I do?
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Q. Over two years ago, I met someone (online) and it was a rather intense beginning to a relationship. Needless to say, we moved too fast and things fell apart. Since then, we`ve been on again and off again and gone through moments where we were not speaking because it was too difficult to be around each other without wanting something. It escalated to the point where last Christmas, he confessed that he was crazy about me but that it was a "different kind of crazy" and he didn`t understand it. At that time, I was dating someone and I basically told him not to talk to me anymore because it was just preventing me from moving on. So, he went away and I finally moved on. Since then, he`s dated a lot and has been going around with this ideal "list" of what he wants in his next partner but has not found it. Finally, he emailed me last week to say that he hsa figured things out in life, never quite knew what he was looking for but now he does and I am it. Am I foolish to even entertain this after he`s been SO indecisive for SO long? How can he be sure all of a sudden? A part of me is still attracted to him but I feel anxious about anything with him again.
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Q. how do you break up with someone you really care about but they never show their love to you but you know they care for you
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Q. Hi, I wanted to bring my kids over to where their step-brother lives to spend Christmas with him. The thing is that my fiance`s ex-wife puts things in his head that his daddy loves his step-brothers more than he loves him. I think she`s still in love with my fiance and gets very jealous and possessive. Her attitudes is like she`s still in loves with him. The major reason that I want to take my kids over to see their step-brother; even though both him and his mom doesn`t acknowledged the fact that the boys shares the same daddy; is because I want her to see that he`s with me and not her. She says that he should get more involved in his son`s life, but her actions says completely something different. I think she wants to see him more than his son. My fiance even told me numerous times before that she begs him to come back,and acts like me and my kids don`t matter. I really don`t care if she gets mad and try to make us feel bad because we`re imposing on my finace and his son`s times because he doesn`t see him that often. How can they when she refuses to send him over during the summer breaks? She`s using her own kid as a weapon against his father. Then she has the nerve to get mad and call him a sperm donor. I wan to go up there because he acts like something is up because there`s always some sortof drama going on when he leaves. So, I want to see for myself what`s the problem.
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Q. I’ve known this one guy since January 2004. He’s asked me out on various occasions but I always turned him down (nicely) because, at the time, I was not physically attracted to him and also because of his age (I’m 19 and he’s 28). Since then my feelings for him have changed. When he asked me out again back in July, I agreed to meet up and we ended up at his apartment. There he had a proposal for me: either we can have a relationship OR "we can just be friends." I never gave him an answer but I did tell him that I like him and I think he`s cute. After that we made out and had a great time talking and cuddling. The problem now is that in August he left to go to Europe and the Middle East (I was silly enough not to ask why) and emailed me to say that he would be back in about 2 months. He also told me that he’d be "emailing in a couple of months, so stay in touch." I did exactly just that. I emailed him back but I have not heard from him since and it has been 3 months already. I`m kind of worried that something might have happened to him over there (not likely though)...but I don`t want to call/email him. I figure, if he is back and if he still has feelings for me then he would call. Other than that I should just forget about him and move on (but it is A LOT easier said than done). Do you think it`s possible that his feelings for me have changed and what should I do?? Please help!
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Q. What types of little surprises can I do to make my partner happy and keep the relationship exciting?
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Q. My husband runs a gentlemans club and he is there for the night shift 3 nights a week. I have always hated the fact that is the only job he will do, I love him not the job. I`m a retired stripper thats how we met 15 almost 16 years ago, and 4 children later. Ihave tryed so hard not to be jealous, I know what many would do to get a, a, a head. There have been many things that lead me to think he has been cheating while a work. I really need some other opion. Here are the facts.
Unable to keep or sometimes get an erection.
He has become very protective of his cell phone.
He leaves the room when he gets calls and almost wispers or when I enter the room ends the call quickly.
He will mope around on his days off, but on the days he works he cheerful.
Cigarette buts in the ash tray of our car with lipstick on it, not my shade.And he says no one else had been there.
Lying about little things.Lying about drinking when his breath would knock you over.
Ignoring me when I`m telling him something funny.
He finally told me about a table dance he got.This has hurt alot.
Coming home late, making excuses about this and that.
Talking in his sleep about female co workers, by name.
Avoiding dealing with these facts, becoming defensive and verbly abusive.
After 15 years when we are out he is constintly looking at other women and if I am talking to him he ignors me.

I`m I alone in thinking something is wrong here. I still look good and I have a good sense of humor.I don`t nag to much and only ask for what I need and can`t do myself. I need some advice I am so depressed and confused.

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Q. I`m a40yrs. wm dating a 43yrs. ww sence Jul 4 It`s been up and down mostly down latey. She was away for about 8wks.I would to marry her,now we had a spat to put it lightly .I thing were at a crossroad. ? Should we sit down and talk about us I mean get everything out in the open no secgrets hide noththing. And then decide wether to go on or not.She has told me alot about herself good and bad mostly bad.
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Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 months + now and we`re going thru a crisis.I got to know her at my workplace and we started off as friends.As days go by,we realized that we had gained feelings for each other.Without hesitating,I confronted her expressing how i felt for her.At that time she was still in another relationship (5year relationship)(Distant) with another guy from UK.It was made known to me that she had some kind of an agreement with the other guy in UK "Should they find another partner, they would agree to part". After knowing they had this agreement,I decided to make my move and finally gaining the feelings I had for her till the day i confronted her.That night of confrontation,I came to know that she would never leave her boyfriend in UK and would only want to spend that night being close to me.I was dissapointed but i couldn`t refrain myself from being close to her.We ended up being close to each other that night and we are now partners.One day she told me that she has broken off with her boyfriend in UK and told me that she`s all mine and should never take her for granted.I did as told and loved her more, more than I could ever afford.Thinking that everything was going on fine, one day she told me that she can`t forget her ex and is confused between me and her bf in UK.After several arguments,she agreed to move on with me and will try to forget her ex in UK.Even so,i still feel very insecure that she`ll just leave me for him.It`s hard to get her assurance that she`ll never leave me.What should i do?Any advise for me or for her?
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Q. HOW can you tell when your ex misses you?or regrets leaving you?
my ex was gonan leave me because he wasnlt ready to settle down and things went to fast.and he just didn`t want a relationship...so i ended up leaving him.cuz i knew he was gonna leave me..
he stares at me constantly and everyone notices it..
he thinks im still mad at him porbably..and he hasn;t talked to me yet..but its been 3 weeks sicne we broke up.and it looks as if he missses what we had..how do i know if he regrets leaving me??
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Q. i was in a argument with my boyfriend cause he was being jealous about a male friend that i have and he told me that i`m free to do what i want so he also free to do what he wants .and starts giving me examples of how things that he could do that he does not do them because he loves me.after i felt insulted that i decied not to talk to him for now.what do you think about his statement
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Q. my husband is jealous of another man, we act normal , but he is still jealous, shouls I tell the other man that my husband is jealous of him , so the other man will ignore me ,
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Q. i have been seeing this guy for 5 weeks now...in the beginning he said he didnt want a serious relationship..but we had a mutual "sexual agreement" to not be with anyone else but each other...well, during the time...he was developing feeling for me...i didnt know it..he didnt tell me..and i messed around one time with this guy...to make a long story short..he cant trust me now. he asked me to come to his place to talk to him...i did..and he told me he loved me..and wanted to put all the crap behind us..and move on. But he still kept asking for details...about the "incident". now..he rarely calls me...and told me he feels pressured to say i love u anymore...what the hell is going on? why all these mixed messages?
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