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The Wandering Eye

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How do I cope with a wandering eye?

The Wandering Eye

Does your partner have a wandering eye, and ogle other people while with you?

First, it is natural for humans to appreciate beauty in all forms. Just as you might look at a gorgeous sunset, or a beautiful beach, you can appreciate the beauty of a well-formed man or woman.

The question is whether your partner appreciates your unique qualities more than that person, and if he/she shows this appreciation. If your mate is always staring at other people, but rarely compliments you on your own qualities, it is time to remedy this. Sit down and talk about why this happens.

If your partner neglects you in favor of spending time with others, it is time to talk with him/her. A partner should respect the mate over others, and if the choice is a lonely mate or a "fun" friend, the mate should come first.

If you are feeling neglected or overlooked, sit down and talk about this with your partner. Look through the jealousy tips - you need to be realistic about how needy you are, but you also need your partner to respect you.



9/12/2008 8:24:29 AM
Terry Hipp said:

My boyfriend does have wondering eyes. I don't know how to deal with it. I try to talk to him about it, but I'm getting nowhere. Thanks for the tip

2/17/2009 4:20:38 AM
sally said:

My partner does this all the time, and I have tried to talk to him, but he denies that he is looking, which in turn convinces me that he has a problem.

8/20/2010 9:39:35 AM
christopher anderson said:

very excellent article

12/2/2011 7:37:09 PM
marg said:

yep I get this a lot to. If I say anything tho I just get told how insecure and jealous I am... but that is because of the way he behaves, belittles and ignores me. I agree that some of what he says is true ... and I am trying to overcome those feelings but it is hard .. I am beginning to think if things don't improve then it would be better to look elsewhere as I don't think he will ever change and has no intention of doing so


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