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Dating After Divorce: Take Time

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Dating After Divorce: Take Time

When dating after divorce, it's easy to see your first relationship through rose-colored glasses. This is understandable and normal.

Most of us emerge from any breakup, to say nothing of a divorce, with a lot of pain and heartache. Perhaps we feel like a failure or feel rejected or abandoned. This is especially true if we weren't the ones who wanted the divorce, but even if the divorce was on our initiative, the process is painful.

The first new relationship after all those painful feelings, therefore, can feel like a gift from heaven, salvation from rejection, loneliness, and failure. And it may be all of these things. But it can also be a rebound relationship, one that pulls you out of those depths and results in your seeing the new relationship through a distorted lens. You might ignore or dismiss obvious areas of incompatibility. Worse yet, you might gloss over potentially dangerous issues like abusive or controlling behaviors, substance abuse, or other risk-taking behaviors.

Some of these risks are reduced by giving yourself a sufficient break between your divorce and dating after the divorce is final. That first relationship after your divorce may be exciting, fun, and full of new experiences. Enjoy it, love, live, and learn. But be careful.



7/21/2007 3:14:36 PM
Joy Armstrong said:

I think that this comment is very well put in place and that people need to understand it great tip. I had to understand it to. i hope that you are okay with things.

10/5/2008 9:43:53 AM
joe said:

thanks 4 the advice

10/19/2009 3:31:54 PM
allie said:

I waited almost 2 years after my divorce to go to dating again, and it's true, it felt wonderful having someone interested in me after being rejected in an unwated divorce. But I guess I was seeing everything in this new relationship through a pink glass.


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