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After a Break Up

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After a Break Up

Breaking up hurts because it activates a grief reaction. Grief is a profound sense of loss paired with cycles of sadness, anger and hurt. Feelings of betrayal, rejection and abandonment are common at the end of a relationship. Although this is a normal response to losing someone important, you will feel anything but “normal.” Take good care of yourself during this time, don't try to run from your pain, and reach out to friends and family for support.

Break up quotes are plentiful because as the song says, “Breaking up is hard to do.” All kinds of feelings come up: grief, loss, sadness, anger, betrayal, abandonment. To make matters worse, getting over a break up is not something that can be rushed.

Attempting to hurry past emotions or avoid them altogether is never advised. When unrecognized, minimized or dismissed the pesky things tend to linger even longer! Therefore, the common tricks of keeping so busy you don't notice yourself or beginning to date immediately are counterproductive. Instead, make time for your feelings, take good care of yourself, and turn to family and friends for support.



5/28/2009 12:38:43 AM
tanay2035 said:

If you've recently been dumped, you probably are thinking about how to get back with your ex. It's only natural. Being dumped is the same thing as being rejected, and no one likes that.
We respond to it negatively as human beings. It's a huge blow to our self-esteem, and we often become obsessed with reclaiming the one who rejected us. After all, we know we're great people, and if we could just get our exes back, they'd see it, too!
Sometimes, the thought of getting back together with an ex can become all-consuming, occupying our every thought during the day and our dreams at night.
This is not healthy. Fortunately, there ARE much healthier ways of dealing with a break up, and you can even learn how to get back with your ex if you're so inclined.

12/1/2011 1:38:19 AM
jan2x said:

if you really can't forget your ex. remember all those things that made you disappoint... and it can take away all those stupid memories....

1/16/2012 11:23:46 AM
Hong said:

Why is it that some friends try to avoiding saying anything when you tell them your woes from a broken relationship??


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