Communication in Healthy Relationships

Good communication is a vital component of healthy relationships. This is common knowledge we accept as fact. However, applying the concept isn’t always easy – especially during disagreements. Expressing yourself without appearing blaming or judgmental is often where this goes wrong. Problems occur when we make assumptions about what, how or why someone did whatever occurred. To avoid this trap, ask questions. Allow the person to answer. Listen while attempting to understand the other person’s point of view. Successful relationships depend on good communication to keep them strong. This is especially important during arguments. Use these tools to pull you through to the other side: · Avoid blame and judgment. Explain what you thought and how you felt without assigning responsibility to the other person for your reactions. · Do not make assumptions. You seldom truly know why someone did whatever occurred. The conclusions you make will be based on your past experiences vs. the other person’s perspective. · Don’t let your emotions dictate your behavior. Feelings are important and should be acknowledged. However, do not react to whatever is triggered. Instead, make a purposeful decision about how to respond. · Listen! Pay attention instead of planning your defense strategy while the other person is talking.