Challenges of Single Parent Dating
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Challenges of Single Parent Dating
One of the biggest challenges in single-parent dating is competition for the parent's attention and affection. The children may be used to a level of focus from the parent that's hard to share with some new man or woman in your life.
And it's not just the kids who will pressure you as a dating single parent. The adult who you're dating has needs too. That person is going out with you for a reason: they enjoy your company and your attention and spending time with you.
So if you're a single parent who's in a relationship, prepare to feel caught in the middle. Get used to being there. And start accumulating some tools to deal with it.
- The child is, on one hand, expressing a healthy need for reassurance that they aren't going to be replaced or left behind. Reassure them that they are your top priority and always will be.
- The child is, on the other hand, learning from early on how to share. That includes sharing what every child thinks is his or hers to demand whenever they want: namely your undivided attention. That's not some sort of inalienable right. Sure, kids need and deserve a ton of your attention. But even in the absence of a new boyfriend or girlfriend, parents are entitled to say “This is my time now.”
- Teaching a child to share not just their toys but YOU is actually a gift you're giving them that will make life easier for them as kids, teens, and adults.
- Adult boyfriends and girlfriends need to share too. They are the ADULTS so should be mature, and work with you as you seek balance. If they don't appreciate that you're a package deal, the relationship can't succeed.
Comments
11/26/2007 2:47:25 AMMary said:
I'm a single parent and I've always had problems with my son because of my dates. Now I see I have to care about what they're thinking too. Thx
11/4/2011 10:31:19 PM
James Smario said:
Like this one!
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