Setting Boundaries

If flirting is a relationship problem -- or even if it isn't yet an issue -- it's a good idea to try together to set some ground rules. The important thing is to make these decisions together in consensus, as equal partners. Some questions to consider: What does flirting mean to you? What needs are you looking to meet when you flirt, and are there ways to meet those needs inside the relationship? Given that you can't isolate your partner from all members of the opposite sex, what behavior do you consider OK? What is unacceptable? What does your partner consider OK or unacceptable behavior for you? Don't forget online flirting. Is it OK for your partner to have a profile on a social networking site? Is it OK for your partner to chat or e-mail with online acquaintances? What about meeting them in person? For parties and other social events, choose a private signal for "you're going too far" and another for "I'd like to go home now."