im having trouble with my boyfreind and now hes emotionless

I've been with my boyfriend for 2yrs(3yrs in august)and we've been arguing so much about the past.Back when we were barely dating,I was such a bad girlfriend to him,lieing about partying,going out with friends,aan nnot commiting to change myself for him.He was so in love with me calling and texting me every second so obsessed with me and i just didn't care.I then realized I had to change and along the way i did start changing my ways of being.Sometimes when i went back to the bad habits or my old self he would start crying and i felt so bad so i'd break up with him thinking its the best and that he needed someone that would appreciate him and give him everything i didn't but i was learning to love him.We went on and off 5times and now a month ago i stopped permanently my old ways.but now that i did,he's now treating me differently.He says that he doesnt know how to love and now emotionless and mentally drained.I basically took advantage of him and hurt him so bad that now he doesnt love me the same.Now we argue everyday or sometimes dont talk and now im the one always crying.He brings up the past and raises his voice and gives me attitude also carelessly and says its my fault...i dont know what to do im trying to fix it but he says that i cant do anything about it the damage is done..what should i do??

Please do me a favor no matter how harsh this all may sound to you read it until the very end because thats the turth and the truth hurts, so i took the time to type it the least you could do is take the time to read it. in my opinion you are at fault and trying to say he needs someone better is basically saying i'm not good enough for him, which to me is an easy womans way out of saying lets brake up, because i don't feel like doing this anymore and if thats the case just come out and say it so that he gets the message, before you hurt him any more, the reason his probably the way he is its mostlikely because of you, but if your trying to change he should at least notice that and try to understand that you cant' help who you are, which is basically a liar like me the only difference between me and you is that i'll lie to every one else and treat them like crap but never to the person i love, because if you love him like you say you do i find it hard to belive that your lie to him, so it make me wonder if you really like him or you like the attention your getting from him or were getting since his now emotionless as you described him, and now that you changed and are loving him back you feel hurt because he told you he doesn't know how to love, so thats hurting you, which is basicaly how he felt every time you lied to him or ignored him for something else like partying and going out, etc...etc. anyways his right, the damage is done, what you can do is realize that the quicker you realize what you done to him, and the sooner it'll help you to fix it, but i'm warning you it won't be easy and it will be painful, but once you brake threw to him things will start to be easir you just need to earn his trust, respect, and love back and keep on loving him in order to get it to work, i mean unless you think id be best if you brake up with him and let him find someone else thats better for him, and you remember what i said ealier about that, so dont repeat your mistakes again, i'm sure he'll love you again if you've changed like you said. well good luck and i'm so sorry if anything sounded harsh but i sugar coated that for you thats the easy version of what i would tell you so you got lucky.

yes i agree with the first answer yes you are at fault you never tell a man im not good enough because that will turn them into a 360 in one second meaning thats when u screwed up because now its karma in my opinion there is actually nothing you can do the respect that a man and a women should have has been gone since day one that u mistreat the person however .... continue

I'm in a very similar situation,except i just made a couple terrible mistakes..actually i made one really. But I really do love him. He doesn't feel that he can trust me anymore after what I did though, and he says he doesn't respect as much as he used to and just lost a lot of the love that was there. I am now changing some of the things about myself as well, so as to hopefully ensure him that I won't make the same mistake again. I am trying to basically make him fall in love with me all over again which isn't easy, because i'm already in a hole (as are you). Respect is difficult to gain back, but I think trust is the most difficult. I'm still not sure what to do to help him trust me again. If you really love him don't give up.

Ellie depending on the mistake you made he may never feel the same way about you again, if you don't mind can you tell me what it was or if your to shy to post it or emberrassed to talk about it my e-mail is Jake.Martini@hotmail.com i've helped a lot of people and i would like to help you out as well, because i know what it feels like to make mistakes maybe not the same ones as you guys or in the same category but just as equally destructive as yours.

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