He could be "the one", but I ruined it...

Me and my now ex-boyfriend loved eachother a lot, we both said we could spend the rest of our lives together and things were wonderful. Then, we went to spend a couple nights with his older brother. We were drinking, and his brother kissed me..being in that state I kissed him back, the rest of the night was just a lot of crying and fighting. He barely talked to me after that and broke up with me two weeks later. I wasn't doing very good after that and I was out with some friends the night after(drinking again) and another guy kissed me..it happened again.
He was going to give me another chance, but then asked me about after we broke up, and I was honest with him about it. But, of course, he wasn't going to give me that second chance anymore.
It's been 5 months since that happened. We talk and hang out all the time, it almost seems to be just like it was when we were dating. I still love him and he tells me he still has some feelings for me and forgives me, but he lost alot of the feelings he used to have. He says he wants that back and is trying to get back those feelings for me again, but can't.
I had not ever done something like that before and would not take another chance for granted... My question is, what can I do to help him get back those feelings he used to have for me?

my best advise is not to drink. and maybe in time he might come round,even though it was just a kiss he probably does feel very hurt, wouldnt you if it happened the other way around. i would keep going as you are being friends and getting to know each other again,and dont kiss no one else lol may be time will heal

One of the big problems is that he doesn't trust me anymore...and I don't know what I can do to help him trust me again. Thank you though.

oh so that was the mistake you made, like the first person said if drinking is the cost of all of this the i reccommend you stop drinking or don't drink more then you can handle, and he may never love you the same way again, id be crushed if i saw my girlfriend kissing another guy drunk or not i'd probably never talk to her again.

He says it is the second time that caused him not to trust me. Not when his brother kissed me in front of him. And he says it wasn't what I did, it was who I kissed that bothers him. I've learned my lesson as far as the drinking goes, and as far as who I can trust and who I can't. He doesn't trust me for good reason, what I did was wrong, but I still have the problem of how to help him trust me again.

well his mad about who you kissed, so find out whats the deal between the two, i mean brother or not if someone kissed my girlfriend ilay the dude out, and brake up with her right then and there, and knowing me and how unstable i get when i get mad i'd say so many things that would probably brake her heart if she still likes me, just to make myself feel better and give her a taste of how i feel. so find out why it bothers him with that other guy but not his brother.

Yeah, makes sense. But, it was a mistake nonetheless, and as I said I definately wouldn't take another chance for granted. We're working on it, we'll see what happens. Thanks for the advice, I appreciate the honesty.

no problem, honesty is something i need to use more often, to make up for lost time, and to you a mistake might be just a mistake but to him the mistakes you make are differen't from how you see them, because it didn't bother him as much when it was his brother, but when it was that certain someone it pissed him off, so theres probably a history between the two of them or he just doesn't like him , i'm the same way i don't even know some people but i hate them for some reason more then other people. anyways good luck and i hope you take to heart what you told me, because your really lucky most people don't ever get a second chance but if you get a third one then, i hope you realize that your walking on very thing ice and if you mess it up chances are you and him will be no more. again good luck.

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